– Yumna Sadiq Hayat
Being the Life of the Party has its perks. For starters, you get invited to most parties, your social network grows by leaps and bounds and the best part: you get free food. However, there is a downside to being the Life of the Party; sometimes, people don’t take you seriously.
Take me, for example. My sense of humor is something which I depend on way too much. The psychologist in me would say that my humor is my number 1 defense mechanism, saving my ego, whenever required. Oh, so you don’t like the way I do my hair? At least, I have hair, what’s your excuse? Oh, so you think I am too loud and obnoxious? It’s called having a personality dear, look it up.
While some of the jokes I crack, may be borderline mean (fight fire with fire), but honestly, sometimes, I think, people who are funny, do not get a lot of credit for having mature, thoughtful opinions about things which actually matter. Serious things like, global warming, natural calamities, feminism, child labor etc
All hope is not lost, however. My fellow readers who have the soul of a clown (not that clown, who goes around kidnapping children because if that’s the clown soul you have, you might want to check up with a therapist near you) and want to be taken seriously by people, turns out you can still crack jokes and get others to respect your opinions. Allow me to elaborate.
Gravitas is another word for seriousness (one of the Roman virtues, please Google), or rather, a sense of seriousness, which by the way, you can totally communicate to others by the way you carry yourself. Your body language and your dress are the key elements here. Though I am saving body language as another topic for another time, but it’s just insane what you can achieve with just changing the way you stand, or even sit, for that matter. Body language can be a total game changer, you just need to know how to work it in your favor.
If you want to appear confident and someone who means business, you need to stand tall (or sit tall), shoulders back, hands by your side (definitely not in those pockets), no fidgeting allowed, either. The trick to making others believe that you are confident, is usually faking it. Maintain eye contact, at all times, but do not go overboard (do not stare, it is impolite; remember to blink, but not too much as if you have something stuck in your eye). Maintaining eye contact is one of the easiest ways of letting others know that you are interested in what they are saying and it is overall great for building rapport between two parties.
The way you dress says a lot about you, too. If you dress sloppily and wear comically large (read: ugly) shoes, chances are people won’t give you the time of day. Yes, it is a mean world, of which we all are a part of. And it is rather foolish to assume that somebody is not worth your time just because they look a certain way, the truth is, we all are a little guilty of judging books by their covers. Deny as much as you’d want, you can get others to evaluate you positively (to an extent), if you dress for it.
The bottom line of this post is that you can be funny and serious, at the same time. People can want your jokes and want your sound advice, too. As with everything else, striking a balance is what matters here. I hope, you find your balance. And if you are someone who spreads joy and laughter around, do not ever stop doing that because this world needs people like you.