The Illusion of Career Choice
– Khadeeja Rana
No doubt parents are the responsible party who know what is best for their child and they will do anything and everything in their best efforts to prove that, but they have experience of the past, not predictions of the future; moreover at the end of the day everyone has his/her own life choices, wouldn’t you agree?
Society dictates certain assumptions that eventually turn into myths. If we follow them crushing our own sense of direction, we might even end up losing ourselves in the process. Indeed parents are considered responsible for guiding their children through life; but when it comes to career selection parent’s opinion must be given value but not at the cost of their children giving up their dreams. Their opinion should be taken as just an opinion. Yes they do have years of experience to their credit but those were different times. New age demands and challenges were not applicable in their times. We should involve them in the decision making process but not give the control of our lives in their hands, rather in no one’s hands. Nonetheless, we need to ask ourselves, should parents have the right to force career choices on their off springs? How about being supportive but not dominating? They should perhaps help the child see the pros and cons of various careers and give their advice but let the child him/herself decide and be responsible for his decisions. One of the many problems with parenting is that parents expect their children to act like grownups, but they don’t treat them like adults to begin with. It is a part of the growing up process to be able to take your own decisions and hence be responsible for them. Parents should give their confidence to the child’s ability to make the right choice. Even if they do not approve of the career selection, once the child has chosen it, they should do everything in their power to encourage him/her into it. So the bottom line is that yes we should seek parent’s advice and opinion in career planning but they should leave the final decision up to us and we should not blindly follow their advice and crush our own aspirations while at it and face regrets later in life when nothing can be undone. If you are considering to make a choice, let it no more be just an illusion of choice… don’t hesitate to follow your dream, and its never too late to realize our dreams!
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