The Beauty Myth
– Rabiya Shahab
We are now living in an era that is dominated by the ever so powerful media. No matter what it is, it is either a byproduct, or somehow linked to media. The byproducts of which are gruesomely damaging our society in numerous ways, whether it’s the increased hype for designer clothing or the demand for the latest 4G enabled mobile sets. We are all so involved in watching the latest trends that we often miss out of the beauty of the world around us. What we have actually been blinded is towards the inner beauty of our exemplary existence. People nowadays have become beauty conscious, they spend hours on putting layers of makeup and fake lashes just to be according to the latest trends. In my personal opinion, women are vulnerable creatures of the Almighty. We are strong and fierce yet extremely fragile and vulnerable, well this is what makes us unique but it also has its drawbacks. Women are easily prone to the lies of the devious media.
An apparent malicious factor is the body myth. Yes, all you ladies wondering how to starve yourselves to reach to the point of looking like a skeleton just so you can get someone’s appraisal or love, this one’s for you. Your beauty is not what glows outside, it’s what is dimly lit inside and provides light to others. The beauty that defines you, your identity. I know it is extremely difficult to accept your true self when living in a culture that puts shackles in your feet but it’s better late than never. But the actual question that I often wonder is what is it that make us so blinded by the bitter glamour of such oh so extravagant fake beauty? It’s the people around us, it’s our parents, our siblings, our friends and anyone we ever had a nice little chat with. People are easily influenced by a foreign opinion especially when it’s from a trusted person. We hear the beauty myths all along our life how slimmer girls a
re beautiful, fair complexion is the one you should have in order to be a successful bride, long hair is the jewel of a woman etc.
Our minds are bombarded by these messages throughout our lives and then our defense is activated which results in what we are commonly aware or Bulimia Nervosa, or excessive shopping of beauty products. We lose confidence within ourselves and are constantly worried about our appearance. I had an encounter with a girl recently who used to be my senior at school. She used to be an energetic and lively girl and today she is suffering from Bulimia. She wanted to become a model and due to loads of rejection she turned towards crash dieting and self-provoked vomiting. She is often rushed to the hospital as she faints a lot. All of this for what? An ad? Whose fault is this? The girl’s or the people around her? Isn’t it the fault of her parents who didn’t stop her when she had her first attempt at vomiting? Isn’t it the fault of our faulty media who support skeletons over perfectly healthy beautiful young ladies?
Its so sad to see young girls wasting away their lives, their perfectly beautiful bodies over the thought of the mythical perfect body. I mean let’s just take our culture in account, we have one of the most diverse culture, with numerous languages and traditions and even then we fail to accept diversity within shapes and heights. This isn’t even the issue; the actual issue is that why are we so concerned about the bodily appearance? Does a man simply marry a woman by her seductive looks or do he actually falls for her humor, identity and her uniqueness?
Does a person befriend a beautiful fair girl with a vile and vicious character or a simple looking but a spiritually calm and empathetic girl? Our beauty standards are completely flawed and ridiculous. They not only make the girls a victim but carries out on a vicious cycle that actually promotes them. No matter who we are we sometimes to some extent promote these silly myths and seemingly play our part, however we should put an end to this vicious cycle. We are the new generation, and as I believe a tad bit smarter than our ancestors and have a unique intention of differentiating right from wrong, we should not only do this but also bring about change regarding it. We should educate people of the audacity one can cause by simply saying ‘hey, you look weird, oh you must’ve put on some weight, did you?’
If we don’t stop it, we will be heading down towards a dark pith of doom that will succumb us slowly and it will be our fault.